Dear Sosyalera,

If you’re going to look inside my closet, majority of my bottoms would probably be composed of JEANS. I’m comfy with jeans but I basically have troubles when pairing shoes with it. I’m just tired of using flats and slippers. I do know that when you wear jeans, it’s much better when you’re in heels but I just don’t know which style to choose. What can you probably suggest?

THANKS!

- Steppy

Dear Steppy ,

Jeans are comfort clothing so most of us pair them with our cosy flipflops. This fashion is very casual and laid back. I really admire girls who can manage to look stylish with jeans and don’t just stick with the usual pantalon porma.

Since you’ve decided to wear heels instead of the comfy flats, the next step is to choose for the right pair. If you want to reuse some of your (or your mom’s) stuffs, you might find these classic styles that don’t go out of date.

There’s nothing wrong if you still put on some of your old high heels but I think it won’t hurt if you’re also updated with the latest look on footwear. Gladiators, Platforms and Cutout sandals/shoes are still in trend.

Forget about your knee-length boots because Ankle boots look more appropriate in the Metro.

One good thing about high heels is that you can wear them even in a dress, shorts or formal slacks. And to all girls who are in a budget, allot a portion of your shopping allowance for 1 pair of classic high heels. At least you have something to use on formal occasions or parties and won’t have a hard time borrowing from someone else. We’re not in New York and dressing down is a culture so it’s a clothing to save on.

Lastly, make sure your attire matches your shoes. High heels sandals are recommended if your outfit looks modish and girly – though I think this is common sense na. Haha. As for the ankle boots, a pair looks good whether you’re in a boyish blazer or dress.

Well as for me, sa umpisa ko lang gusto mag high heels. I tend to become lazy with these shoes once my feet feel achy. Kaya don’t be like me.

Love Lots,

Leyn

P.S. I would like to apologize to people who sent their e-mails for the past 3 weeks. Something went wrong with my inbox so I might respond belatedly. Huhu.

Hi Leyn! =)

Ayan, sa wakas, nagkaroon na rin ako ng chance na magemail sayo sa Dear Sosyalera blog mo. Kasali ako sa mga dumarami mo pang fans na naaaliw at nage-enjoy magbasa ng blog(s) mo. Oo, fan ako. Hehe. Anyways, may problema kasi ako. Kakapagupit ko lang kasi ng buhok. (see attached picture) And this time I decided na magpagupit ng as in maiksi. Naiinggit kasi ako sa buhok ni Nina. Haha! Last time ata na ganito kaiksi ang buhok ko eh nuong college ako. Since then, pinahaba ko na ang buhok ko.

The day na nagpagupit ako, gustong-gusto ko ung itsura ng buhok ko. Mega style kasi nung naggupit. Naisip ko, mas madaling i-manage ang short hair. Wash & wear lang. Here comes the problem – naisip ko lang kasi. Few days after kong magpagupit, ayan na, nagsisimula nang magkaroon ng sariling buhay ang buhok ko. Hindi ko na malaman kung panong style ang gagawin. Buhaghag (tama ba term) kasi ung buhok ko eh. Manipis na buhaghag. I’ve stried styling it on my own pero failure. Siguro kasi, di naman talaga ako sanay magayos ng buhok. Hehe.

So Leyn, pwede ka bang magrecommend ng kung pano pwedeng ayos ng short hair? Saka hair products na pwedeng gamitin. Nagpunta na kasi ako sa mall, eh sa dami ng products, di ko alam kung alin ang bibilhin. Ayoko namang magtry lang ng kung ano, kasi sayang sa pera, tas baka masira pa lalo ung buhok ko. Ayoko rin namang bumili ng sarili kong salon para lang laging maging maganda ang ayos ng buhok ko. Haha. Pero sana ganun ako kayaman. LOL.

Thanks for reading my email & more power to Sosyalera. =)

– Karmi

Dear Karmi,

I hope by the time I post my answer, sana hindi pa mahaba ang buhok mo. Haha. Anyway, I’m not a Pro when it comes to hair styling and maintenance, but since I’m still updated with hair vanity, I can just attest to some methods I’ve tried before.

It’s natural that our hair looks at its best after going through a salon haircut. Of course, our stylists won’t leave it unpleasant but its maintenance is all up to you. Some people effortlessly fix their hair because their hair type is ‘fine’. Unlike with some people who have the ‘coarse’ type, which needs the aid of hair styling products just to achieve a desired form.

Treatment

I really want to try a short hairdo but unfortunately, my hair type isn’t that manageable (medium thick type). So I need to maintain it long to avoid fly-away ends and the weight will drag it down. With your case, I’m not sure what hair type you have but a salon treatment will help. Try a Relax Hair Treatment AFTER a Hair Strand Test and if not qualified, just pamper yourself with any Oil-based hair treatment.

And because I know you’re not here in the Philippines, here are some products available everywhere.

Products

1. Schwarzkopf Essensity Clarifying Shampoo and
2. Schwarzkopf Essensity Richesse Masque – If you want something organic, try this Schwarzkopf set.
3. Kérastase Nutritive Sublimateur Jour – Applied as an afterbath conditioner w/o rinse. Just dry your hair with it to achieve a smooth and silky effect.
4. Kérastase Nutritive Nacre Nutri-Sculpt - Shine enhancing treatment wax
5. Loreal Elseve Smooth-Intense Daily Rinse Out Treatment - Used as a regular conditioner after shampoo.
6. Loreal Elvive Night Serum – Leave on product for overnight use. Treatment for frizz and rough feel texture.
   
7. Thinning Scissors – Ask a friend to trim your layered-bob cut hair using these scissors. Also great for trimming bangs.
8. Shower Comb - To avoid split ends due to hair drying, it’s better to use big combs to untangle hair strands.
9. Rat Tail Comb - Best for styling especially after applying wax or hair spray.

Accessories

If you’re kikay enough, then I believe you can wear hair accessories if you want (para hindi masyadong mag-concentrate ang tingin ng iba sa nagulong buhok mo. Haha.) For casual wear, thin headbands are my bet.

One trick is to dry your hair after shower. Don’t just leave it wet and let it dry while you go to school or work. You just have to take note that this routine is prone to split ends. Basing on my habit, I let my hair dry with an electric fan instead of hair blower. A stylist once advised me to face against the fan while drying. This is to avoid fly away ends and the hair’s form will go inwards.

The illustration sucks, pero parang ganyan. Haha.

For me, I can’t think of any style for short hair but let it down. Simple but sexy. You may have acquired a perfect hairdo from the best salon but what matters is how you keep the style. Not everyone is blessed with perfect-shining smooth strands and we have to deal with it. Each of us has to know what brands get along with our hair. Try reading online product reviews so you can also check what’s within your budget. I may suggest some products I’ve used before but these might not flatter your scalp. Just like soaps and skin creams, it’s a process of trial and error.

I didn’t include your picture here para naman sa privacy. Haha. Thanks mimay!

Love Lots,

Leyn

dear sosyalera,

madalas akong nakatambay sa site na to. ang ganda kasi eh. . pero nung nakita ko yung dear sosyalera, sumaya pa ako ng lalo dahil halos pareho lang ang problems ko sa mga humingi ng advice sayo. ). and dami mo nang natulungan pero ngayon, ako naman ang may kelangan ng advice.

kahit malayo pa ang prom, nagwoworry na ako. gusto kong magulat ang lahat pagdating ng day na yun dahil sa appearance ko. simple lang ako at hindi ganun kakikay. medium ang height ko pero gusto ko po sana na ma-emphasize yung long legs ko 8-). maganda daw ang likod ko pero medyo flat chested ako ). hindi naman ako over weight or under weight pero chubby ang cheeks ko. naturally tan ang skin ko plus mahaba ang buhok ko. ang problem ko naman ngayon is kung anu ang susuotin ko plus shoes, hair, make-up at accesories. nagbrowse ako sa mga magazines pero wala akong makita na gusto ko lalo na yung afford ng budget ko.

hoping for your reply.

-sweet16

Dear sweet16,

JS Prom is a much awaited High School event aside from Graduation. It’s good that you’re already looking forward to this day and by now planning on your prom dress. First, you have to know what the ‘usual’ prom dresses are so you can make a difference. Try to consult friends with their fashion ideas because prom themes also depend on your school’s culture. Some themes might require you to look modern, and some schools only allow the conservative type of party clothing.

Second, I don’t recommend black. It’s because as what you’ve said, you want to stand out so it’s better to be in flashy neutral colors to flatter your tan complexion. Try something like peach, light beige or off white… just don’t make yourself look dark.

To emphasize your legs, I advise a short type of gown. Long dresses look gorgeous and princess-y but showing some skin won’t hurt. So to flaunt long legs without overlooking the glam aura, consider short gowns with balloon structure, ruffled layers, tulle or tutu kind of skirt.

Fabric is a major factor in selecting your gown. Silky and shiny textures will look good on you. Avoid printed fabric so it won’t seem like you’re just in an ordinary sun dress (unless the prints look embroideries). Even if your gown is solid colored, its design, ruffles and accessories will help do the enchanting-look trick.

Also ensure to shop for the right accessories and hairdress. Like illustrated below, the gown was accessorized with a small brooch but still, it stood out like an important accessory. Try to add details like this.

And lastly, the shoes! Be like Cinderella and wear a glittery pair or pumps. You don’t have to be particular with the brand but know the latest styles. Everyone wear high heels during Prom to add height and sophistication. This is a must have since more likely, you’ll be in a short dress so your shoes absolutely matter.

Just in case you worry that you might have the same style of clothing with other prom goers, then you may want to consider customizing your gown. Whether the gown is just bought in a boutique or hand downs from other people, you can ask a seamstress to alter or add more details to your garb. In this way, you’re not just limited with the style that you see in stores but you can add personal touch of styling to your outfit. Again, it’s cost effective.

Furthermore, you’re not forced to go to a stylist or make-up artist to groom you on that day. You can do it by yourself so you can manage your make-up colors to match your dress. Avoid putting too much dark eye shadow or pinkish shade. Baka magmukha kang magsasagala. Stick to neutral shades and concentrate on 1) putting on lipstick, 2) even application of concealer and 3) eye mascara. These three cosmetics can noticeably enhance your features.

Ideally, I recommend a type of balloon gown with ruffled skirt, haltered sleeves and low back-line to compliment your described body-type. Have a wonderful prom day and don’t forget to bring a cute date. Hehe.

Love Lots,

Leyn

Hello Leyn!

Uh… Sorry about the screaming subject headline. But anyway, I think you’ll give me the best advice on what to wear next week—August 14. My organization is about to held this ‘awards party’ where we award org. people for their outstanding work in the org. (Durrr.) Haha.

And the sub-theme as what they’ve indicated is “Brooch”. And the main theme as fashion show…. So any outfit as long as there is a brooch! Dammit, as I know brooch are usually used by old/adult people. Yeah. My perception.

But anyway… there! I really need help. I want ideas. Well, I actually have ideas in my mind but I want more. I know brooches can be either pinned on the outfit or basta anywhere near the neck…or whatever. I don’t really know how to best place it WHERE.

And also.. fashion show. Daaaamn. Well, it’s a challenge ’cause I usually wear just the normal good dresses paired of with the right accessories. I just don’t know how to go out with a BANG!

Thank you very much! I would appreciate your fast response ;P

- aileen

Dear aileen,

I think this is the first time I’m answering a concern promptly so pardon if my response might not be that useful. Anyway, reflect on this – what do you usually see on a regular fashion show?

Couture. High heels. Glam Hairdo.

Quit the usual party dress this time. Be in something different. Everyday is not a runway day so this event comes once in a blue moon. First you need to spy on other people’s planned outfit. The occasion might be kind of formal, or maybe funky. I have no idea but you still have time to figure out because I bet you don’t want to end up looking bizarre among the crowd.

For the brooch, the usual designs are flowers and big gem stones. Try a different taste – like pinned charms and animals.

I don’t suggest that you just pin your chosen brooch on your dress or top like everybody else. So to add style to that brooch thing, fasten it on a flower corsage so it won’t look plain, dull and as is.

Well other event goers might have already thought of attaching a flower on any side of their chest and that’s so 2005. So wear it as a neck accessory instead so you’d look sophisticated and different.

Looks familiar? Yes, these are Serena and Blair dresses. You probably get the idea by now.

Brooches are small so they’re actually not the first thing that will be noticed that’s why you also have to think of your dress. This is an event so in a way, formality is observed but I believe this is a school thing so don’t make yourself look old and bitchy. Buy or borrow a dress with ruffles or full skirt. Avoid too much accessories because your jewelries might not match your brooch.

And lastly, whether you wear a short or long dress, make sure you’re in high heels.

Enjoy shopping this weekend. Need to catch some ZZZs now. Hehe.

Love Lots,

Leyn

Hi! I just saw your blog and all i can say is that i’m super happy because i have someone to ask for advice regarding my problem..

The thing is my friend is having her party at a bar and her theme is dress to impress. I know I should dress to impress just like anyone else but i want it to be the best-est (if there’s such term) this time. I want to dress perfectly for the occasion.

I stand 5′2 and have an okay body. Not too thin and not too fat. Also my friends know that I’m not that kikay type so i want to impress them this time.But the big problem is I am only a student and i don’t think i can afford to buy expensive clothes since i won’t wear them occasionally. Also, i want to wear something that is comfortable and would look the same throughout the night because there would be a lot of dancing and drinking.

I want to look simple yet elegant with all the make-up and all and not to look trying hard at the same time. I am also scared that there might be someone else in the party with the same dress as mine so i want to avoid that.

If it’s not too much, i also want to ask your help regarding make-up; on how to apply eye shadows that would fit perfectly for the occasion and not look too dramatic.

Looking forward to your advices.

-frustrated fashionista

Dear frustrated fashionista,

You won’t have hard time choosing attire for the party given that you have a good figure. From what I understand, you also want to dress differently this time without neglecting comfort and budget. Actually, I just have two styles in my mind after reading your e-mail so I hope my ideas will help you a bit.

Since bodycons are one of this season’s trends, the style would be perfect for an evening party – cocktail, dance or dinner. Buying a piece won’t even hurt your pocket because mall boutiques have them in stock or even your friendly ukay-ukay. The secret is just to look for the perfect one that fits you well.

To look poised in a bodycon dress, make sure you’re wearing a fitted undergarment. This is to avoid noticeable flabs and sagging of dress. I’m suggesting solid-colored or less-printed fabric so it won’t be that obvious if you bump into someone with the same dress (well, I hope that doesn’t happen). A Little Black Dress would be elegant and safe for any occasion.

Dress to impress theme doesn’t require showy or sexy clothes to catch attention. I actually want to suggest a tutu plus stockings style but as you’ve said; your friends think you’re not the kikay type so it’s somewhat OA if they see that you made so much effort with your clothing. Baka kantsyawan ka nila for life. So it’s better to stick with a classic outfit yet looking glamorous. How can you do this? Wear a simple cocktail dress but have a hair make over and accessorize with hair dresses. This tip is cost effective.

You will be dancing and moving all night so it’s better to either have an up hairdo or curls – low maintenance than straight ironed hairdo because you don’t have to frequently comb your hair. Curls style can feel sweaty so if you have time, try to fix your hair upstraight. You can even add details to your crowning glory by wearing headbands, flower pins or an artistic tiara.

Shoes. This will do the trick. I know you want to feel comfortable throughout the night but if you really want to stand out then you have wear high heels. No pain, no gain. Below are pairs of Christian Louboutins and Jimmy Choos but there are cheaper choices with same style. Check out People Are People or any Department Store. I just want you to have an idea what shoes look good for a party.

If you’re uncertain that you might not enjoy the night in high heels, then go for Style # 2: Dress and Boots. Killer boots are so last season so I’ll suggest the Fringe Boots. They’re more comfortable and hip. However, the style looks laid-back because you need to pair it with a loose-fitting dress instead of a bodycon.

Lastly, don’t bring oversize shoulder bags. Use a clutch bag or purse. If you decided to wear a dark shade then match it with a purse with contrasting color. At least you won’t worry where to leave your things since you can carry a small bag anywhere… hassle free.

Don’t be intimidated with the items I suggested. You have lots of cheaper options like department stores, bargains or your mom’s closet. I also experienced being a student and it’s not easy to be broke in times of fashion emergencies. Plan for your party style to avoid wasting time in shopping or borrowing things.

Regarding make-up, any neutral shade for the eyes will do. Apply glittery color of eyeshadow over the neutral shade para hindi ka magmukhang EMO. Just please don’t combine blue and pink para hindi ka naman mukhang kukunan ng grad pic. It’s quite hard to give words regarding make-up because I have no idea what’s your complexion. Youtube make-up tutorials can help.

I hope you enjoy this event and don’t you think it’s about time to bring out the kikay side in you? You will be attending more parties in the future and rely with your sense of style.

Love Lots,

Leyn

hello leyn

am browsing on the net looking for the right fit for small girls. i’ve come to noticed your blog and its so amazing. i believe you’re a model icon, I DO HAVE A BIG PROBLEM. im only 4′8″” in height :-< which i find it as a disadvantage plus medyo malaki yung braso ko.

can you help me out on what to wear? well my boobs are pretty nice should i have to flaunt my asset ? pls help me out. thank you and more power.

lil_lady

Dear lil_lady,

Thank you for appreciating my blog. I’d be glad to give you tips but as I always say, all fashion advices here could just help out with what’s really your personal choice. I believe you can still think of better options for yourself. Most e-mails sent to me are concerning style for chubby and petite girls so you might want to browse some of the answers here. You can also refer to this post for basic fashion that flatters smaller height.

First, you should be aware of what’s your figure type – Triangle, Inverted Triangle, Hour Glass or Straight? Based with how you described yourself, I assume you have the Inverted Triangle figure. Not bad at all. You just have to know the ABCs so you’d have an idea what type of clothes you should be wearing, next time you go shopping.

For a recap, just take in mind:

• Dark colors compliment petite girls.
• Learn to wear high heels but avoid ankle straps.
• V or U Necklines for tops.
• Avoid narrow belts, big accessories, oversized bags and baggy clothing.

Dress:

Try not to make your upper part (shoulders and bust) look fuller so your body as a whole can maintain a balanced look. It’s not that bad to wear strapless dresses as long as you keep a good posture. Have more definition on the waist and hip part to compliment your arms and bust. Below are examples but clothes are shown in light colors.

Tops and Blouses:

For a casual look, you can stick with the 3/4s sleeves instead of the short cap type. If I have the same figure as yours, I’d prefer to wear sleeveless tops than short cap sleeves. Short sleeves can create a fringe illusion of your arms unless you choose for the loose sleeves type like illustrated below.

Skirts:

To keep a balanced appearance of the upper and lower part, it’s better to wear fuller skirts or with pleats. In fact, it’s a trend nowadays so no worries with this fad. The skirt length is also a factor – above or below the knee and knee-length skirts are recommended. Mini-skirts can expose the short extent of your legs so you may avoid them to flatter your height.

Pants:

It’s better for petite girls to wear dark colored pants. Skinny jeans are okay as long as you have slim legs. But if you want to make your hips and thighs look thicker, pants with pocket details or tapered trousers can be your choices.

Regarding your asset (which is your bust line), if you feel like flaunting them, that’s good. Because if you’re timid with your shape, you’ll tend to be picky with what you wear and will always have limitations with clothing. Just make sure that you also outline your hips and torso to obtain a curvy hour glass look. (Example: low neckline sleeveless dress with bottom pleats).

We know that taller girls have wider range of style preference but that shouldn’t lessen your enthusiasm for fashion. Take this as a challenge instead of a disadvantage. There are still tall women out there who don’t even take advantage of their height. So it’s still a matter of having interest for good taste.

I hope simple words can inspire you to start organizing your closet. Tc lil lady!

Love Lots,

Leyn

Hi,

I’ve been reading your blog and the letters that were sent to you and this inspired me to ask mine as well.

I’m going to ask about fashion, balak ko kasing gumastos ng 3k for clothing this month, like a super belated birthday gift for myself. I want to maximize my budget so I don’t really care about brands and I’d go for ukay. Though, I don’t know what is appropriate for me, I’m 15 and I usually just dress up when I go somewhere and I MIGHT be studying in a ‘no-uniform’ university next year so I guess this is a start.

I’m interested in those, I think stockings?, yeah, those. But I can’t find cheap enough pieces so I could buy at least three.I’m also inlove with heels at this moment.

To give you a gist of my style, Little J’s outfit nung binigyan siya ni Serena ng party. The dress, the dark stockings and pink heels. But I think walking in the streets of Manila, I’d be the center of attention. GAH.

So I need, a list for a 3k budget.
Where to of the stockings, I think?
And what style is age-appropriate.

So please, help?

-ohblackstars

Dear ohblackstars,

Cherish your youth and teen years. Your age is actually the best time for you to start exploring fashion and girly style. I also adore how Little J dresses but with my mid 20’s age I’m quite hesitant to be in her teeny fashion – unless I want to achieve a pa bagets look. ;(

Anyway, 3k budget is a good start for your basics. For this entry, I’ll focus with the stockings. If you’re looking for printed and textured type, I suggest Leg Love by City Lady designed by Kate Torralba. They’re retailed in SM Department Stores or Watsons for 299-399 pesos per pair. Though the Leg Love Limited Edition designs are most likely available in its main store in Greenbelt 5.

If you prefer leggings, I recommend ZARA. I personally have a pair from the store and the quality is nice – still stretchy after several laundry tortures. These clothing type ranges from 750-900 that makes them cheaper than TOPSHOP. If you’re lucky enough to shop during a ZARA sale, they’re down to 400 pesos.

If you’re not that particular with brands, you can try in Landmark at the accessories section. I bought some panty hoses (which I also use as black leggings) before and I still use them without any runs. I’m not referring to the plain black stockings but the ones with thicker texture than the usual. Bought a plain black and dark brown for only 150 each.

In case I have your 3k as my budget, I think I’ll use it for shopping in different price range. I might buy 1 from a boutique, 1 from a department store and try my luck in ukay. This doesn’t just apply to the stockings but also to your tops, shoes and accessories. In this way, your money will be maximized and you get to try different qualities. You will learn from here about what’s good and not-good-enough brands.

I bet you’re already familiar with mall stores but just to mention a few, it’s cost effective to shop at People Are People, Schu, and some stores like MANGO and (again) ZARA will be down to 50-70% for the midyear sale. But of course, it’s not about WHERE to shop but HOW you pick your clothes. It’s really helpful to read magazines and watch chick flick series. They won’t fail you about the latest trend. If you don’t have enough moolah to buy the exact clothes in certain places, you might as well copy them through good finds.

If you’re concerned with what style is age appropriate, honestly, I can’t tell because it actually depends on your choice or how you handle your age. Some older women tend to dress like early adults and they’re successful on how they carry themselves. Some teen agers dress like manangs so they tend to look mature and stressed. Think for yourself. What kind of personality would you like to portray through your physical appearance? It’s up to you. But of course, just take in mind some stereotype reminders like not looking too sexy/bitchy and avoid overdressing.

And coming from you, it’s quite peculiar when you style ala Little J in an ordinary day here in Manila; so know when and where to have this fashion if you don’t want some holdapers eyeing at you. As I commented here, chances are, you might take effort on how you look on the first day then years after, you’ll just be on jeans and shirt… unless you study in Constance.

Break a leg! Study hard but stay kikay.

Love Lots,

Leyn

Hey there!

I just found your site this week and let me tell you, I love it already! Your advise about everything is super helpful and fashion forward that I can’t stop reading all of the articles.

I was hoping you could help me with my problem. I really need a wardrobe change so I’m planning on shopping soon before school starts. Can you give some places and shops that are unique and fashionable? I am so sick of buying clothes in the mall because several people might be buying the same thing as I am. I hope you can give me some stores around here in Metro Manila.

Thank you so much in advance and more power to your blog!

Lei

Dear Lei,

If it’s a school wardrobe you’re concerned with, I assume you have already browsed this entry about must have school attire closet. This can also help.

It’s quite vague, of course, I’m not sure what’s your fashion style and shopping budget. So for the benefit of all, I’ll be suggesting some places you might want to check out depending on your taste; not the ordinary department store or every teen’s boutique like bench and kamiseta.

Ukay-ukay
Don’t raise your eyebrows, I’ve already tried this once. I’m not a fan of ukay-ukay but it’s actually fun especially if you shop there with friends. If you’re not that picky, you just need a whole day looking for good finds because there are only few trendy clothes in good condition under the pile. I never thought 500 pesos can already buy more than 5 tops!  Some ukay-ukay strores in Manila sell old-fashioned clothes so the only place I can suggest is in Anonas Quezon City; the ukay stores right down the LRT2 Anonas Station.

Mid-class Bargain Stores
I know, school is about to start and students might be running out of time to shop. Though if you’re tired of the same old stuff in malls, try going to bazaars and events if you want to have a shopping adventure even during school months. I’d love to suggest upcoming bazaars for this month but as of now, there are just store sales in the malls.

High-end Tiangge
It won’t hurt if you buy clothes in Tiangge as long as you buy things that are not so everywhere. Take in consideration that one clothing design is mass produced; even those pieces they sell in mall stores. Check out the Fashion Alley in Tiendesitas. Also, I think I already mentioned this before but, the stores in Serendra sell unique clothes and most of the time, the dresses have limited stocks per design.

I can’t tell specific stores because it really depends on your shopping budget. Here are just some of my bets:

Backstage, Serendra. BYSI, Podium. The Ramp, Crossings Trinoma. Chocolate Clothing Co, Leading Department Stores. CRU Accessories, Powerplant. Culte Femme, Rustan’s. Peppered Cherry, Serendra. Souk, Serendra. Ruth & Esther, Powerplant.

Actually, mentioned above are still everyone’s brand. I’m no concierge so I can’t direct you to a lot of stores. Perhaps, you’re already familiar with the places I suggested. Hehe. In my humble opinion, if you want to be unique, I think you have to be more particular with how you match and choose clothes regardless of where you buy them.

So I’ll leave you with the season’s suggested back-to-school style. Pop culture is in, you might want to go with the trend!

Tired of the same ‘ol stuff? Then give away your boyish back packs. Colorful bags can give life to plain clothing.

Flip Flops are usually prohibited in schools so pay for a pair that stuns; give some color to your toes.

Comfy yet fashionable tops.

Quit the hoodies and the usual call center jackets; look for a more different style.

Remember to buy dresses that are appropriate for schooling yet you can still use for night outs and dates. It’s cost effective.

Most of the students are already in jeans, be different with colorful capris and printed trousers.

Belts don’t have to be that expensive, collect at least 6 belts that can match any of your clothes and you’re ready to go.

I hope my simple guideline helps and not too late. You only have a week for shopping, so break a leg my dear.

Love Lots,

Leyn

Dear Miss Leyn,

Siyempre naman, hindi puwedeng hindi ko banggitin dito sa mail ko na super nalilibang ako magbasa ng blog mo. As in mula noong nasa blogspot ka pa sinusubaybayan ko na ang mga entries mo dahil sobrang nakakaaliw. (BTW, trip ko din ang mga page designs mo.;)) Pero ito, may problema ako, hindi ko alam kung sinong tatanungin dito na may sense ang isasagot sa akin.=( Ikaw lang ang alam kong may saysay na makakausap ko tungkol dito sa problemang ito. — Seryoso ‘to ah! Di kita binobola!!!

So ayuuun, bago ako sa job ko kung saan hindi kami required mag – corporate attire. Okay na isuot namin yung gusto namin as long as hindi naman kami mukhang kabastos-bastos or mukhang untidy.=| Pabor na pabor sana ito sakin, kasi, hindi ako comfortable na gumalaw sa corporate attire and mas naii-express ko yung sense of style and individuality ko through my clothes. Dito ngayon papasok ang problema. Super naloloka ako sa boss ko na mga 4 years lang ang tanda sakin. Lahat yata ng nasa wardrobe ko, literal na nagaya na niya! As in halimbawa na pumasok ako nung Monday, naka suot ng pucci print na dress, tapos pag dating mg friday, siya din, naka pucci print na dress in almost the same color!!! At binili niya ito and take note, hahanap din yan sa kung saang ukay-ukay ng sapatos na kahawig ng ini-match ko sa damit ko. (Minsan nga, may mga articles of clothing ako na kahit may kamahalan pipilitin niya bilhin kahit hindi na siya kumain ng lunch and dinner dito sa office!!! Ganoon siya ka-hardcore!). Hindi lang niya ito ginawa ng isang beses, ginawa niya ito by immitating my jeans, my shoes, pati accessories at mga tops ko and wow, buti na lang nakapagpa-gupit na ako dahil ngayon naman ginagaya niya yung haircut ko noong unang pumasok ako dito sa office na ito.=( Nahihirapan ako tanggapin na may copy cat ako dahil hindi naman ako fan ng kasabihan na: Immitation is the greatest form of flattery — and I guess that’s got allot to do with the fact that she really couldn’t pull off most of the things that she copied from me. Bukod sa ayokong may nakikitang nagpapaka-clone ko, naiinsulto ang style ko kasi talaga naman hindi niya keri!!! Ay, karumaldumal talaga.

Ano kaya ang magandang gawin ko, ayoko naman na i-downgrade ang style ko para huwag na niya ako gayahin.=(

Thanks a lot Miss Leyn.=( I would really appreciate it kung mabibigyan mo ako ng kahit na anong suggestion.=)

–littlemissagitated

Dear littlemissagitated,

You know what, hindi ko palalagpasin na sagutan ito because we share the same sentiments. I already had an experience like this but of course I won’t mention details anymore ‘coz from what I heard, my copycats are also my readers. Haha.

I understand that you’re not flattered being imitated so that makes you frustrated about the situation. However, most of our feelings are all in the mind. If you put yourself in the copycat’s shoes, don’t you think seeing someone better or prettier makes you feel kind of frustrated and down (to the extent that you don’t eat lunch anymore)? So as for you, take this as a point of being superior and not the one being pitied for.

One thing I love about chick flick series or movies is how fashionable, hated, mean girls can actually be lovable. In times we have to accept that underdogs are in fact the weaker ones. You have to think like Blair Waldorf that you are no longer affected by copycats and wannabes; instead you treat them as fans. It’s really a part of life where you get to have competitors, which in a sense, means that you are worth contending with…

…and of course, part of a competition is not telling your secret. If your boss asks where you buy your clothes, then don’t tell or lead her to a generic brand. But if she’s extreme that she checks on your brand tag, show that you’re trying to avoid her. Without any words, it will reflect that you are not comfortable with what she’s doing.

I bet you can’t tell it directly because if so, you won’t take this as a problem. It is just so unreal to tell in her face that she’s nothing but a second rate blah blah blah…copycat, tapos whooosh, buhusan ng red wine! First, it’s not a good move to confront your boss about this concern. She might take this personally and can affect your work relationship. So I really advice that you avoid any verbal encounter or pagpaparinig that might lead to a more serious problem.

So if you can’t do it, let your girl friends do the bashing. Haha. I hope you can make friends with other people who are frank enough and can defend you. If you bring up the issue straight to your boss, you will be more like a kontrabida. If other people can help you address the problem, then this boss will think that you are the bona fide fashionista and everyone else sees her like an imitator.

You don’t have to downgrade your style, instead, it will be a reason for you to be more conscious with your fashion taste. So overall, I advice you to change your mindset about the situation. As what you’ve said, hindi nya keri ang panggagaya nya. But for sure, you have been an Eye Opener to her that she needs to make herself feel better through fashion. Hindi nga nya keri, but in a way it’s helping her self-esteem. Unless she’s bragging her clothes – ibang usapan na yun. If I were you, I’ll just do one thing – dress MORE, style MORE, be MORE. Kahit kasi anong gawin natin at kahit i-confront ko pa sya dyan personally (lol!), she might be doing a little research na rin like reading magazines, browsing through fashion sites and window shopping. It might have become a new interest for her, minus the originality.

I assume you’re a stylista by heart because you have the eye to at least know that this or that fashion doesn’t fit this girl. So I think you should be laughing at the issue. Though she works in the higher department, fashion-wise she’s no match with you. Tell that through body language.

Please do understand that I’m just trying to be honest and I’m no pa-righteous person. I might sound mean or judgemental but I’m just answering based on experience. And if you have no more choice and feel like bursting, why not try wearing our lifesaver statement shirts, this might help…

Thank you for supporting my blog. I hope you’re not one of my girl friends setting a prank on me because your story is very similar with what I encountered before. Haha!

Cheers and good luck my dear.

Love Lots,

Leyn

Hey Leyn ^_^

Your articles are fun! It keeps me from dozing off at my work place. Geez, I am bored here. Haha. Anyway, I have a problem. Could you please advise me where to buy nice dresses? Not the type of dress na pang party or pang formal, mga casual dress lang.

Thanks!

- J

Dear J,

I assume you work 8 hours a day sitting in front of your PC. I feel you. Wenk. Anyway, your concern actually depends on your budget and clothing preference. For example, if you’re willing to sacrifice the thrill of window shopping, you can refer to my previous post about online purchasing. As you can check, the prices are very affordable and according to my friends, the quality is reasonable naman.

But of course, I have my personal choices…

If you shop in mid-level bargain stores, I preferably recommend Plains & Prints. I was supposed to work there before because I’d love to and I also wear the brand. It’s also fun to explore and check out their famous local artists’ designs like Rajo Laurel and Celine Lopez.

Why wouldn’t I mention, my favorite stores TOPSHOP, Mango and Zara. If you’re eyeing for nice dresses, the price ranges from 2000php to 4000php. The quality and style could tell the difference.

I’ve also discovered one shop that sells pretty tunics. It’s The Ramp, located in Shangrila or any Crossings Department Store.

Peppered Cherry, Serendra

If you’re quite worried that you might see someone wearing the same dress, then I suggest you go to certain stores where they have limited stocks for each design. Try to visit boutiques at Serendra like Backstage, Peppered Cherry and Souk. If you’re a “mall” person, have fun fitting some clothes in Chocolate Clothing Co.

Of course, there are hundreds of shops to choose from. But as what I’ve said, these are just my personal favorites. Before you pay at the counter, make sure that you have strolled almost all boutiques you see. I believe you know how it hurts when you regret buying something in the end.

Thanks for reading! ;P

Love Lots,

Leyn