Finishing School

April 14, 2010 – 12:00 am
Filed under personal

hi! i need an advice, my mom and i are always arguing when it comes to color combination, proper dressing and speaking. i would say my mom is quite maarte when it comes to those stuff. she says, hindi daw ako marunong magpasosyal kahit konte. so i looked for a site or blog that could help me. i actually feel small when she say those wordsto me (sigh). she even told me to enroll in a finishing school. what do you think? would i go and enroll myself or just buy some etiquette books? maybe books can help me. if you know some books that could help me solve these problems, pls give me the titles and authors. i badly need them.

thanks.

-pat

Dear pat,

How are you? I hope you’re okay. You seem stressed and pressured but I believe you can still handle this personal issue. I don’t know the exact details but I hope I can encourage you a bit.

I understand if you can’t directly tell your mom about how you feel. I don’t want to sound idealistic and advise you to open up your feelings. You and your mom should meet halfway and don’t force yourself on doing things that she wants. First, analyze your personality and lifestyle. Baka naman there are times that you don’t act properly or you’re too boyish. Moms tend to expect their daughters to be prim and proper so know your mom’s expectations.

Try to improve yourself gradually. No faking or pretensions. Do it for personality development and not because your mother wants to. Enjoy while you educate yourself and love what you do. Instead of reading technical books, buy yourself some fashion magazines and draw inspiration from them. There are lots of online websites you can follow that can improve your fashion sense. Even window shopping and checking what’s new in stores can help you.

Another thing, actually the manner of speaking depends on the environment you grew up with. Conyo people are engliseros and engliseras because they practice it at home and they study in schools where almost all people speak in english. There are some who didn’t grow up in a well-off environment but can still speak well. I suppose this is a matter of inborn intelligence, on how you were brought up and the kind of people you’re with. So I don’t think you can change yourself overnight. Reading books, watching films and even blogging can develop your communication skills.

To be honest, I’m not familiar with etiquette books so I can’t name any. Well I know I can pick the right clothes, know the latest fashion and speak properly without basing on books. But if you insist and you’re willing to enroll for a finishing school, that’s still up to you. Though I can sense you can do this on your own without any technicalities and pressures from your mom. Also, don’t feel shy on showing some changes. I know each of us wants to improve our personalities but shyness tends to suppress us.

Don’t feel bad about your mom, I bet she just want you to appear well-bred and cultured. You’ll thank her someday. Just be positive and good luck! :)

Love Lots,

Leyn

Church Dress Code

April 12, 2010 – 11:30 pm
Filed under shoes, women's clothing

hello leyn,

good afternoon, im a big fan of your site, and im so happy that i always find something new here. i love your newest article bec i like the dresses in them. anyways, let’s go to The dilemma.

in our church, we are counseled to dress modestly. although there are no exact rules, most of us decide to follow knee length when it comes to skirts and blouses with sleeves. no short shorts or anything skimpy, no cleavage, (you get the point?) unless your going to have to go to the beach in which case,of course youd have to wear a swim suit. i really like this idea of dressing modestly. wala kaming problema dito, we’re proud of dressing this way. contrary to what others say, i do not feel restricted at all.

sa mga parties, successful naman ang halos lahat sa amin sa mga sinusuot namin. walang nabebreak na rules. pero pahirap na ng pahirap maghanap ng isusuot. grabe sobrang hirap humanap ng dress na maganda na may sleeves. uso pa rin ba ang mga bolero. i hope you could help me look for fashionable finds

sincerely,
mimi mouse

Dear mimi mouse,

Hey, I appreciate that you always check my site. I just hope you keep on supporting my blog. Hehe. Anyway, I do understand some religion/church dress codes but yeah, it’s not an issue. I just noticed that most people who follow such dress codes have the same manner of clothing (like denim skirt and plain shirt). It seems that you want to be more stylish than the usual skirt & blouse thing so here are some ideas for you:

If you’re patient enough to browse some of my responses, you’ll know that I’m a sucker for girly Sundresses as casual wear. So my first tip is for you to collect Sundresses with sleeves. Florals, patterns and geometric prints give life to a conservative looking dress so you also have to be particular with the fabric print.

Collect White Blouses or any light color so you can match them with any skirt you buy. Instead of picking dull looking skirts, why not try different styles like Pleated, Handkerchief or Gartered. High waist style and colorful skirts are really hip this season.

Another option is wearing Maxi Skirts. The style may look conservative but I believe it’s still on how you pick the prettiest design.

Boleros are not weather friendly especially for the following months. I also don’t recommend layering unless necessary. But if you have some sleeveless dresses then wearing a bolero is valid. Just make sure its color blends with your base clothing. Just a tip, super fit bolero tops looks horrible so wear something that fits your actual size.

Lastly, you can add flair to your entire outfit with fashionable pair of sandals. Pick sandals with laces, ribbons and fancy stones.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong if you experiment with fashion. Just take in mind your culture’s rules. Good luck~

Love Lots,

Leyn

Debut Guest Attire

April 8, 2010 – 3:00 pm
Filed under shoes, women's clothing

Dear sosyalera,

Greetings!! I just received an invitation yesterday from a friend whos daughter is celebrating her debut on april 09. It says in the invitation that attire would be “strictly formal, any color except white”. my 1st problem is, im not used with wear formal attire because im just simple and i remember attending same occassion but with different attire such as beach, hawaiian attire. Please help me choose one which is fashion updated that i will be confident enough but won’t show too much skin. im one of the 18 treasures here. im 5′6 tall, morena, broad shoulders, shy type/not 100% confident, 31 years old. my second problem is I have some “peklat” above my toes so im not that confident enough to show my whole legs. But anything you will suggest would be greatly appreciated.

thank you and more power!!!

emz

Dear emz,

Since the debut will be tomorrow already, I’ll just answer shortly. As you pointed out, you’re not totally confident with dressing up. So based on your personality, you shouldn’t force yourself to wear mini-length dresses and tube tops.

Long Sleeves are valid for occasions like this. You can also wear a Maxi Dress. The key for looking sophisticated is choosing quality fabric and updated fashion. Just remember to avoid over-printed and colorful dresses for a more formal look. A conservative dress can still look stylish with details, drapes, ribbons and asymmetric cut. Black is fine but I think other solid color is better as a debut attire.

With regards to your leg scar, wearing skin tone stockings can help if you decided to wear a shorter dress. If the scar is bearable, ankle cuff or cut out shoes can conceal the flaws.

I just hope you still have time to look for the right dress. Thanks for dropping by.

Love Lots,

Leyn

Party Dress

April 7, 2010 – 2:00 pm
Filed under women's clothing

hi po, I always read your opinion regarding the proper attire when it comes on any occasion. I need your help, I just want to know the proper attire sa birthday party sa bar, if possible from head to toe w/ complete accessories na rin. thanks.

french pie

Dear french pie,

Hey, thanks for reading my fashion section. I just noticed you mentioned “po” too much so I edited them out. Now I’m suspecting you’re just making fun of me or what. Haha. :)

Anyhow, I’m assuming that the birthday party you’re attending includes drinking and dancing. Well, I have observed that most people who go to bars are dressed in black, pa-sexy sleeveless tops, black open toe sandals, small purse and shiny make-up. If you want to look stylish and unique, be distinctive from a stereotype party-goer and wear fashionable pieces for this occasion.

Dress
Instead of wearing too girly clothes, try mini dresses with puffed shoulders, bodycons and striking prints. Another gorgeous but light fashion is the high-waist dress with curve neckline.

Bag
Carry a small shoulder bag that tones with the color of your outfit. Once you’re dancing, it’s better to have your valuables wrapped around your body.

Shoes
Killer shoes like strappy high heels can transform you to a drop dead gorgeous chick. Even if you’re togged up in a simple tunic, these shoes can do magic to your get-up.

Accessories
Make your accessories simple like thin gold jewerlries especially when you’re dressed in striking colors. If you decided to wear the classic LBD or a solid colored cocktail dress, big accessories such as thick necklaces and big bangles are appropriate.

This party attire is good enough for the birthday event whether hardcore partying is involved or it’s just a simple dinner set-up with friends. Your make-up should look natural and any hairstyle is okay.

Well, that’s it! I hope my idea helped you a bit. Enjoy the night!

Love Lots,

Leyn

Flabby Legs

April 5, 2010 – 5:00 pm
Filed under body type, women's clothing

Hello leyn, mag-consult sana ako kung paano magpapapayat ng binti  or kung anong bagay na damit para sa akin. medyo malaki kasi ung binti ko. tapos may scar pa kaya problemado ako sa mga isusuot ko lalo na pag skirt. i hope na marereplyan mo itong message ko :)

More Power and Thank you,
Nica

Dear Nica,

Unfortunately, I also have the same problem and I myself have been longing for solutions. Haha. But don’t worry, I’ll still share some tips and help you, fashion-wise.

Well, my legs are not that big but they’re fuller than usual (knowing that I have skinny built). I have no idea if I got them from swimming or biking when I was still young. According to fitness gurus, we develop leg muscles if we work out too much or we got used with certain activities (like biking) from childhood. Some say the best way to reduce leg muscles is not move at all, which sounds ridiculous. If those aren’t muscles but leg fats, then it’s because of genes. Whether you have muscles or fats, the most effective way to lessen them is through dieting with proper exercise – which is one of the hardest thing to do in this world. Haha.

So your Plan B would be about fashion: on how to look fashionable without highlighting your legs. Black tights or leggings are effective in lengthening your legs but unsuitable for hot weather. Maxi Dresses can be an alternative for short skirts this summer.

If long dresses aren’t your thing, stick to clothes that are not too long nor to short – like an inch below the knee or knee-length pleated skirts. Avoid pencil cut style or bodycons.

You can also research on certain exercises that can make your legs lean. Of course, it takes time and patience unless you’re willing to undergo surgeries. Hehe.

Best of Luck!

Love Lots,

Leyn

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