hello leyn,

good afternoon, im a big fan of your site, and im so happy that i always find something new here. i love your newest article bec i like the dresses in them. anyways, let’s go to The dilemma.

in our church, we are counseled to dress modestly. although there are no exact rules, most of us decide to follow knee length when it comes to skirts and blouses with sleeves. no short shorts or anything skimpy, no cleavage, (you get the point?) unless your going to have to go to the beach in which case,of course youd have to wear a swim suit. i really like this idea of dressing modestly. wala kaming problema dito, we’re proud of dressing this way. contrary to what others say, i do not feel restricted at all.

sa mga parties, successful naman ang halos lahat sa amin sa mga sinusuot namin. walang nabebreak na rules. pero pahirap na ng pahirap maghanap ng isusuot. grabe sobrang hirap humanap ng dress na maganda na may sleeves. uso pa rin ba ang mga bolero. i hope you could help me look for fashionable finds

sincerely,
mimi mouse

Dear mimi mouse,

Hey, I appreciate that you always check my site. I just hope you keep on supporting my blog. Hehe. Anyway, I do understand some religion/church dress codes but yeah, it’s not an issue. I just noticed that most people who follow such dress codes have the same manner of clothing (like denim skirt and plain shirt). It seems that you want to be more stylish than the usual skirt & blouse thing so here are some ideas for you:

If you’re patient enough to browse some of my responses, you’ll know that I’m a sucker for girly Sundresses as casual wear. So my first tip is for you to collect Sundresses with sleeves. Florals, patterns and geometric prints give life to a conservative looking dress so you also have to be particular with the fabric print.

Collect White Blouses or any light color so you can match them with any skirt you buy. Instead of picking dull looking skirts, why not try different styles like Pleated, Handkerchief or Gartered. High waist style and colorful skirts are really hip this season.

Another option is wearing Maxi Skirts. The style may look conservative but I believe it’s still on how you pick the prettiest design.

Boleros are not weather friendly especially for the following months. I also don’t recommend layering unless necessary. But if you have some sleeveless dresses then wearing a bolero is valid. Just make sure its color blends with your base clothing. Just a tip, super fit bolero tops looks horrible so wear something that fits your actual size.

Lastly, you can add flair to your entire outfit with fashionable pair of sandals. Pick sandals with laces, ribbons and fancy stones.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong if you experiment with fashion. Just take in mind your culture’s rules. Good luck~

Love Lots,

Leyn

Dear sosyalera,

Greetings!! I just received an invitation yesterday from a friend whos daughter is celebrating her debut on april 09. It says in the invitation that attire would be “strictly formal, any color except white”. my 1st problem is, im not used with wear formal attire because im just simple and i remember attending same occassion but with different attire such as beach, hawaiian attire. Please help me choose one which is fashion updated that i will be confident enough but won’t show too much skin. im one of the 18 treasures here. im 5′6 tall, morena, broad shoulders, shy type/not 100% confident, 31 years old. my second problem is I have some “peklat” above my toes so im not that confident enough to show my whole legs. But anything you will suggest would be greatly appreciated.

thank you and more power!!!

emz

Dear emz,

Since the debut will be tomorrow already, I’ll just answer shortly. As you pointed out, you’re not totally confident with dressing up. So based on your personality, you shouldn’t force yourself to wear mini-length dresses and tube tops.

Long Sleeves are valid for occasions like this. You can also wear a Maxi Dress. The key for looking sophisticated is choosing quality fabric and updated fashion. Just remember to avoid over-printed and colorful dresses for a more formal look. A conservative dress can still look stylish with details, drapes, ribbons and asymmetric cut. Black is fine but I think other solid color is better as a debut attire.

With regards to your leg scar, wearing skin tone stockings can help if you decided to wear a shorter dress. If the scar is bearable, ankle cuff or cut out shoes can conceal the flaws.

I just hope you still have time to look for the right dress. Thanks for dropping by.

Love Lots,

Leyn

hi po, I always read your opinion regarding the proper attire when it comes on any occasion. I need your help, I just want to know the proper attire sa birthday party sa bar, if possible from head to toe w/ complete accessories na rin. thanks.

french pie

Dear french pie,

Hey, thanks for reading my fashion section. I just noticed you mentioned “po” too much so I edited them out. Now I’m suspecting you’re just making fun of me or what. Haha.

Anyhow, I’m assuming that the birthday party you’re attending includes drinking and dancing. Well, I have observed that most people who go to bars are dressed in black, pa-sexy sleeveless tops, black open toe sandals, small purse and shiny make-up. If you want to look stylish and unique, be distinctive from a stereotype party-goer and wear fashionable pieces for this occasion.

Dress
Instead of wearing too girly clothes, try mini dresses with puffed shoulders, bodycons and striking prints. Another gorgeous but light fashion is the high-waist dress with curve neckline.

Bag
Carry a small shoulder bag that tones with the color of your outfit. Once you’re dancing, it’s better to have your valuables wrapped around your body.

Shoes
Killer shoes like strappy high heels can transform you to a drop dead gorgeous chick. Even if you’re togged up in a simple tunic, these shoes can do magic to your get-up.

Accessories
Make your accessories simple like thin gold jewerlries especially when you’re dressed in striking colors. If you decided to wear the classic LBD or a solid colored cocktail dress, big accessories such as thick necklaces and big bangles are appropriate.

This party attire is good enough for the birthday event whether hardcore partying is involved or it’s just a simple dinner set-up with friends. Your make-up should look natural and any hairstyle is okay.

Well, that’s it! I hope my idea helped you a bit. Enjoy the night!

Love Lots,

Leyn

Hello leyn, mag-consult sana ako kung paano magpapapayat ng binti  or kung anong bagay na damit para sa akin. medyo malaki kasi ung binti ko. tapos may scar pa kaya problemado ako sa mga isusuot ko lalo na pag skirt. i hope na marereplyan mo itong message ko

More Power and Thank you,
Nica

Dear Nica,

Unfortunately, I also have the same problem and I myself have been longing for solutions. Haha. But don’t worry, I’ll still share some tips and help you, fashion-wise.

Well, my legs are not that big but they’re fuller than usual (knowing that I have skinny built). I have no idea if I got them from swimming or biking when I was still young. According to fitness gurus, we develop leg muscles if we work out too much or we got used with certain activities (like biking) from childhood. Some say the best way to reduce leg muscles is not move at all, which sounds ridiculous. If those aren’t muscles but leg fats, then it’s because of genes. Whether you have muscles or fats, the most effective way to lessen them is through dieting with proper exercise – which is one of the hardest thing to do in this world. Haha.

So your Plan B would be about fashion: on how to look fashionable without highlighting your legs. Black tights or leggings are effective in lengthening your legs but unsuitable for hot weather. Maxi Dresses can be an alternative for short skirts this summer.

If long dresses aren’t your thing, stick to clothes that are not too long nor to short – like an inch below the knee or knee-length pleated skirts. Avoid pencil cut style or bodycons.

You can also research on certain exercises that can make your legs lean. Of course, it takes time and patience unless you’re willing to undergo surgeries. Hehe.

Best of Luck!

Love Lots,

Leyn

dear ms leyn,

hi. its my first time to visit your site and im really interested about your fashion tips. I was really having a hard time kasi finding a graduation dress that fits my size and i think that i have an apple size body figure, but im not so sure about it. I have this big bust. 38-C. But, my auntie gave me this floral sleeveless knee-length dress. i dont know if it looks good on me (coz i dont know to judge myself) hehe. Anyway can u help me, and give me some tips on how to improvise it and make me look good on it. thank you sooo much.

-aj-

I’ve been receiving a couple of e-mails everyday about graduation dresses and I’ve been answering them repeatedly so please don’t hate me if I can’t reply to all. Hehe.

Anyway, dear -aj-,

All in all, your issue is having the apple body type. Thus, to keep your figure balanced as a whole, attention should also be drawn on the lower part of your body. So basically, the style of dress I’m suggesting is something that appears like an hour glass figure.

I have no idea what type of dress your aunt gave you but I hope it could be altered to a balloon skirt style. In case you no longer have the time to shop for dresses like cited above, wear a pleated underskirt for an A-line effect. Ruffles on the skirt hem can also add volume to balance off the dress that fits your body type.

In addition, wear high-heels (or at least 3″) to elongate your legs especially if you’re wearing a knee-length dress.

Even on your daily attire, take note of these basic tips so you won’t feel mindful with your body problem. Congratulations on your graduation!

Love Lots,

Leyn

hi ms leyn, please help me. i really need a formal dress coz im going to attend a wedding this coming may. I’ll be one of the reader din kc kaya medyo naghahanap na ko ngayon. saan ba magandang maghanap ng dress? gusto ko sana yung something unique. I have a inverted triangle body type, 5″4, fair complexion and medyo malaki yung arms ko. i really want to hide it.and one more thing violet and green motif nila do i need to buy a dress with the same shade? kc ayoko naman ng magmukhang kasama sa abay. sobrang naguguluhan na ko. please help me. really need your advice.

Thank you.
anne

Dear anne,

For store reference, you can check my previous answers here [1,2].

Fashion-wise, you don’t have to literally follow the motif of the wedding but you can still have the motif shades on your outfit in some ways. Just be creative! For example, you can wear a green dress and black pumps then match your outfit with purple jewelries. Or wear a purple dress then tone it with a green headband and purse. This is to avoid looking like a part of the entourage. I’m sure the bridesmaids will wear green + purple: two colors in one gown so be dressed in something different:

I hope you get what I mean basing on the suggestions above. Regarding your figure problem, try to look for dresses with drape sleeves and details. I don’t discourage you to wear sleeveless but please avoid tube and halter styles. Also, I don’t think wearing a shawl is the answer.

Since you’ll be wearing striking solid colors for the wedding, just apply neutral make-up instead of using green or purplish shades so you won’t look overdressed.

No worries and enjoy planning until the said occasion.

Love Lots,

Leyn

Dear Sosyalera,

Hi Leyn! I am one of your blog’s avid reader even my husband is reading it with me. Enjoy kasi kami sa mga articles mo especially sa mga not-so-pang-ookray mo sa mga bagay bagay.

Anyway, I just want your suggestions because I need to upgrade my wardrobe especially now that I am working again as Receptionist in a Construction Consultancy here in Dubai. I want to try something different and I want to look simple but smart. I am chubby, my tummy is round. (hahaha) that’s why I prefer to wear dark colored clothes to hide my “bilbil”. I want to wear clothes that is comfortable because I can feel the Summer heat right now. Please suggest also the right shoes/sandals, accessories, hair style (I have a straight long hair). FYI I’m not comfortable wearing high heels but I could try mid-heels shoes/sandals because most of the time I am wearing flat shoes. I am planning to go for a shopping end of this month so I hope you could help me on this.

Thanks Leyn!! Looking forward to your reply. More Power! Ingat.

Ang Iyong Tagasubaybay,

Jhanna

Dear Jhanna,

Wow, may reader pala ako sa Dubai. Now I want to cry. Wenk. Anyway, thank you thank you.

I just hope that the clothes I’ll recommend are wearable within your taste. Basically, your main issue is how to hide your stomach flab. Again, here are the basics before choosing the right style:

• Pick dark colored clothes.
• If you want light colors for your base clothing, the fabric should be crisp and avoid spandex.
• Minimize styles that shows division like wide belts or contrasting colored tops and bottoms.

Tops & Dresses
I guess you already know that wearing empire cut tops and dresses is the best way to hide abdominal flabs; though if you think that this style will just make you look pregnant, there are tops that have ties or ribbons that can be knotted around the waist. For tank tops, sleeveless hem tops are better than the semi-fitting ones. Be particular with the prints and design but stick to these tummy flattering clothes:

Dresses can be worn alone but just for the sake of mixing and matching, pair them with leggings or black slacks.

Cardigans
Tops and dresses may look casual so always keep a smart blazer/cardigan in your locker. I know they’re not weather friendly but cardigans can make a casual dress look formal. Try on white or any light shade for this summer.

Shoes
Fashion-wise, mid heels pumps are better to add up height. Kung nahihirapan kang maglakad then be in platforms or wedge. It’s okay to wear flats but as always suggested, make sure you buy the latest styles. Flats with detailed designs like straps and fancy stones can brighten up a plain outfit.

Accessories
As a receptionist, you should always look elegant in front of the clients. So for accessories, a simple set of jewelries are way better than big necklaces or earrings.

Hairstyle
Always tie your hair to look neat and fresh all day. Practice doing a half up do style like these:

Good luck to your work and Happy Shopping this weekend!

Love Lots,

Leyn

hi Ms. Leyn!

good day! hello, sobrang fan mo ako at lagi ko sinusubaybayan ang site mo.

anyways, tulad ng ilan na nag email sayo, gusto ko rin sana humingi ng tulong, di ko kasi alam kung ano ang mga damit na babagay sa skin tone at shape ng body ko. i am 21 years old, morena, 5′2, 43kg, flat-chested. anu-ano ba ang make-up na babagay sa skintone ko? ano rin mga simple style ng damit ang babagay sa akin? before kasi, pag nagagandahan ako sa damit, sinusuot ko nalang.
i dont mind na kung hindi bagay. i want to change my style na.

salamat! more power!

-Keneisha

Dear Keneisha,

Good day! Well, girls with fairer skin don’t have much problem with regards to fashion because any color or shade suits them. Yes it’s true that being morena is not an issue but not all colors complement darker skin. So basically, start with knowing what shades are right for you.

Avoid bright colors like shocking yellow, bloody red, orange, neons and start collecting clothes with earthy shades and pale hues. If wearing light colors is really your thing, you can be dressed in ivory, off-white and beige. Black is okay but it might just make you look darker.

I don’t think your skinny built is really a problem. Remember that other girls spend a lot of time and money just to be thin. So despite of being flat-chested, enjoy your thin body and wear any clothes you want. Your height is even on the average side so any dress is fine. Give attention to your other assets like your shoulders or long arms then flaunt them by wearing halter tops and tube dresses. But for the sake of updating you with fashion, here are my picks:

Tops

• Razor Back Tank Top – to emphasize your shoulders and back. Also recommend this summer.
• Ruffles – if you’re uncomfortable with your flat chest then buy blouses with details and ruffles.
• Embelished Design – same with ruffled tops. Designs like bow and ribbons could add up shape to your straight body.

Dresses

• Flowing – instead of body fitting type switch to flowing dresses.
• Volume Dress - adds up shape.
• Tulip Skirt - can give you an hour glass figure.

With make-up, it’s just the same with clothes – stick with natural or earthy colors. Avoid make-up with a hint of pink, blue, fuchsia or purple unless it’s needed for an occasion. With everyday use, my picks are brown, beige, tan and the most daring you can use is gold. On cheeks, it’s better to use bronzer or brown contour instead of reddish blush.

I remember several years ago that I wear anything that I think looks good on me. I now regret on that attitude because looking back at my fashion statement, I wasn’t stylish at all. So before you shop, try to check online what are the latest pieces so you can wear what’s the trendiest and at the same time feel good with what you wear. For example, make it a habit to check the TOPSHOP website then find cheaper alternatives (with the same styles) if you’re budget conscious.

So go, now is the time to change your style.

Love Lots,

Leyn

Hello! I’m currently a college freshie at UPM. So sadly, walang uniform. Uwian ako so I have to look at least a bit presentable pag nagcocommute. Pero I’m sick of the ordinary t-shirt/jeans get-up. Yun na ang parang uniform ko eh. I want to try new clothes that are comfortable enough but still fashionable. Any advice po ate?

-Zelley

Dear Zelley,

Hi there! My iskolar friends told me that UP doesn’t require dress codes, good for you. It seems that the usual shirt-jeans is boring you already so let’s rather change your fashion statement. Personally speaking, I have my own way of looking fashionable during casual days without overdressing. Here are some tips:

Dresses
You have to start with collecting casual dresses. Oversized tops and jerseys are recommended to feel comfortable even when commuting. If you’re a keen shopper, you can find affordable tunics with the same price like the shirts you wear. Choose simple colors and prints so you can easily accessorize. Check these samples on how to bring together an entire outfit:

Jumpsuits
Dresses may be a bit girly so jumpsuits are your second option. Same as the dresses, buy pieces with minimal prints. Whether you prefer dresses or jumpsuits, basically choose styles that are relaxed, made of thin fabric and flowing.

Shoes
You should collect at least 3 shoes for schooling: Strappy Flats, Canvas Sneakers and a pair of Ballerina Shoes. These everyday flats can go along with any kind of outfit. Make sure the shades you pick for your footwear match almost all of your clothes.

Bags
As much as possible, give up on the boyish back-pack to improve your school outfit. You can keep 2 bags for everyday use: a body-bag type and a retro-ish tote.

Accessories
One key to upgrade your simple outfit is to pick the right accessories. Para hindi takaw-holdup, just wear fancy long necklaces with charms that tone with solid colored dresses.

The fashion I want you to achieve may look simple but you can start from there. I advise smooth clothes so you can freely move and it won’t feel sweaty when you commute.

Thanks for dropping by on my blog.

Love Lots,

Leyn

dear miss leyn,

ikaw na. ikaw na ang savior ng mga jologs at naming mga hirap pumorma. ga-graduate na ko from college sa march 24 at pinoproblema ko ang isusuot ko sa gradball on march 22. black and white cocktail yung theme at wala pa kong isusuot hanggang ngayon dahil wala akong idea kung san tamang bumili. problema ko din yung sapatos, kasi naiilang ako maglakad pag naka-heels. 5′3 ako, long hair, at mas maputi ng konti sa ordinaryong pilipina.

p.s. may pagkabalbon ako. ibig bang sabihin nun e aahitin ko legs ko?

Dear A,

Ikaw na. Ikaw na ang gagraduate. Hehe. Anyway, you only have a week before the grad ball and hopefully you have already shopped for a dress. You didn’t specify what style you’re eyeing for so I’ll answer this shortly. In case you still haven’t decided with what to wear, then choose a simple dress with black and white color combination.

Your height isn’t that bad so you don’t have to wear super high heels. You can wear 2″ heels and just pick shoes with flashy design like ribbons, gems and stones. Bright colors like cobalt and cerulean shoes look good with the classic Little Black Dress.

I know your main concern is where to buy the dress so I’d still go with the stores I always mention on my previous posts [1,2,3]. (Calliope, PRP, Zara, The Ramp, Promod etc.) It actually depends on your budget and the type of dress you want to buy, simple LBDs are available on most girl stores.

And with your legs, use wax strips instead of shaving. An effective waxing set costs about 500 so if you’re on a budget, use Veet cream for as low as 100 pesos.

Congratulations by the way!

Love Lots,

Leyn